Should we as parents let our kids know our
I am of the mindset that my children would be better off knowing what I have done in my teen years and how this changed me, than to just tell them don't do it and leave it at that.
Let me explain:::
I have 2 small children so this dilemma won't come up for a while. BUT...I did some things in my late teens as far as sleeping around and experimenting with drugs. I am not proud of these things. Sometimes I look back on them and wonder how I could have been so stupid and how I could have been so careless with my body and my mind. I was brought up from 2 wonderful parents who told me "don't do drugs" and "don't sleep around" and it was always just because they said so and they knew better since they were adults. Well, I don't see that as a good answer. I want my kids to know my mistakes and my triumphs...how I was and what turned me around and how I feel about it all. I don't want to be a parent who just says "because I said...I know better" .
Does this make sense? I don't think I will go into great detail as to my misdeeds. BUT..I believe that my kids will learn more and listen better if they know that mom went through the same feelings and thoughts and desires. I want them to respect their bodies and their virginity becaues it is worth respecting not just because they don't want to get a disease or get pregnant. I want them to say no to drugs because they love life and their bodies and not because drugs are "bad" or they will "kill you". The truth is, some drugs are great...I mean, how can a parent compete with that feeling you get while high if the kid does go ahead and experiement? I just think that if I tell my kids about my experiences and my stories (good and bad) that they will be able to make a more informed and knowledgable decision.
What do you think?
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